When you can’t be yourself
There comes a point when pushing harder stops working.
Not because you’re failing.
But because the way you’ve been living, working, and relating is no longer aligned with who you’re becoming.
Many high-achieving women reach this moment quietly. On the outside, things look successful. On the inside, something feels off — tired, disconnected, stretched thin in ways rest alone doesn’t fix.
In this conversation on the Wellness on Tap podcast, Nat joins Dr Debs Eastwood to explore what happens when burnout, breakdown, or emotional pain becomes a turning point rather than an endpoint. Nat shares her journey from a high-profile fashion career into healing work, shaped by rejection, betrayal, depression, and the realisation that being “too much” was never the problem.
Together, we talk about people-pleasing, trauma and being an empath. We discuss the invisible patterns many women inherit, patterns that drive overgiving, perfectionism, and chronic exhaustion. This isn’t a conversation about fixing yourself. It’s about listening differently. Releasing what was never yours to carry. And learning how to reclaim time, energy, peace, and self-trust from the inside out.
Below, you’ll find timestamps to navigate the conversation — so you can go straight to the parts that meet you where you are right now.
rejection, breakdown and ‘too much’
0:55–2:50
success on the outside, disconnection on the inside. being told you’re “too much” and hitting the moment where blame turns into choice.
nothing changes until you learn to see
3:04–3:26
a move to australia, a fresh start—and the realisation that patterns travel with you until mindset shifts.
from crisis to purpose
3:32–4:26
discovering toxins in beauty products, confronting illness and loss, and choosing to live and work more consciously.
letting go of who and what you know
4:26–5:02
letting go of substances, party culture, and certain friendships—and learning what boundaries actually feel like.
loving and giving too much
5:20–7:28
people-pleasing, over-giving, and recreating family dynamics until betrayal forces awareness.
loving too much as an empath
8:05–8:38
absorbing others’ emotions, carrying what isn’t yours, and why burnout creeps in unnoticed.
inherited beliefs that drive what you do
8:45–9:36
how subconscious programming runs most of life—and why insight alone doesn’t create change.
carrying emotions that were never yours
9:19–10:16
womb, birth, and ancestral imprints—and the moment women realise they’ve been holding their mother’s fear.
when talking isn’t enough
11:00–12:29
why trauma lives in the body, and how rescripting memories releases stored stress.
the grief you carried for decades
12:49–14:28
a childhood loss held for decades and the cost of becoming “the strong one” too early.
learning to sit and be with emotions
15:31–18:29
inner parts work explained simply—listening to anxiety, anger, and pain instead of suppressing them.
when energy changes the conversation
19:33–21:46
intent, presence, and how shifting perception transforms conflict and communication.
why you feel overstimulated and drained
23:11–25:02
news, media, substances, and constant input—and how they quietly erode your nervous system.
rest isn’t laziness
25:15–27:18
joy, movement, nature, and creativity as regulation—not reward.
speaking safety into your body
28:02–29:20
why voice and self-dialogue reprogram belief faster than affirmations alone.
where your creativity went
30:49–32:18
how conditioning dulls intuition and genius—and how to reclaim it.
achieving more by doing less
36:02–37:12
boundaries, delegation, and the moment overwork turns into leadership.
when life cracks you open
39:41–40:15
burnout, heartbreak, and loss as portals for evolution rather than failure.
healing has to be whole
44:39–45:22
why body, mind, and soul must be included for change to last.
your past influences you now
45:35–48:01
ancestral wounds, vows, and long-held roles that keep repeating until released.
from private healing to collective impact
50:23–52:07
leading from wholeness, creating ripple effects, and doing this work together.